Yesterday being Monday I was supposed to get off my behind and get things done. Didn't happen. For some damned reason I am extremely depressed, I just feel like sitting down and bawling my eyes out. Nothing knew has happened, I just feel like there's absolutely no reason to go on. Anyway, I didn't get anything done - not a thing. DH did - he washed the towels and bedding, ran the swiffer over the floors, and made up the bed. Oh, I did make some soup, but DH told me it tasted like crap.
Instead of cooking dinner, DH and I met up with some of my high school/neighborhood buddies at Mexican Inn for dinner.
Today has been busy -- I was awakened to the door bell ringing. Not a gentle "ding dong," but over and over and over, loud knocking on the window of the door, re-ringing of the door bell, more knocking, dogs barking their heads off. DH had an appointment this morning, so he wasn't home. I went to DH's office to see who the HHHH was at the door but did not recognize the car. No one I know would be so rude at the door. I thought the guy would go away if I ignored it, but that wasn't to be! He continued. With the dogs with me and phone in hand dialed to 911 (had not yet pushed "call"), I went close to the door and yelled, "Who is it?" The yelled back, but I couldn't hear him because of the dogs. I finally heard enough to know he was looking for DH. I finally got up the nerve to open the door (with dogs with me) and the man yelled at me that he's DH's officer. I looked at him like he was crazy and told him DH was at the MHMR office where he was supposed to be!! The man yelled at me to tell DH he came by. Did he think after all the commotion he caused that I wouldn't do that????? I immediately sent a text to DH and called him. He was at that moment sitting in exactly the place he was supposed to be - and was waiting to see the MHMR doc!
The day improved somewhat from that! Be hard not to! I decided to attend the company retiree association gathering today, and DH met me there after his morning appointments. Oh, my, I don't know what year these folks retired, but they all looked as though they were in their 80's at least!!! Over heard one person remark about us that we didn't look old enough to be there! To make things worse, the dang speaker today was the retired sports writer for the Star Telegram, Jim Reeves. His entire 30-40 minute talk was about the Nolan Ryan/Robin Ventura fiasco. Now anyone who knows me knows that I absolutely hate/despise/have no use for sports. I was miserable - worse than listening to a preacher go on and on on Sunday morning. I thought he would never shut up. Good thing the first year of membership for newly retired folks is free or I would never go back!
Then I did some "ME" time...while DH headed to pick up milk/necessities, I headed to the nail salon for some much needed pampering. I should be shot for spending that kind of money on myself, but I was ready for the chair massage, pedicure, and nail fill. And tonight I skipped out on cooking. We went to what DH and I call the corner - Italian Cafe which is not too far away. The oriignal owner has been back about a year and it has become the neighborhood place to go again. So, that mans tomorrow I have to get busy 'cause I have been absolutely worthless for about a week.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Friday, January 13, 2012
Friday, January 13, 2012
Friday already! We've accomplished zilch this week! The kids (Tamara and Jason) came to see us yesterday for a few minutes. We gave them a television out of my sewing room. They're excited because they get to move to a place of their own on the 20th. They've been sharing with the other kids, Katie and Austin. We gave them the kitchen table and chairs last week, along with a couple of white wicker tables. Miss Tamara tells me they've got about all they need except dishes. I think we'll just give them a gift card and let them go get their own!
Yesterday we finally mustered up enough oomp to get out of the house. We went to look at a dining table advertised on Craigslist for $85 - lady said price was "firm." But when we got there the thing was a piece of crap! We had to let her know we were not interested at any price. totally wobbly - something wrong with the legs. We turned it over to look at it but it wasn't worth trying to fix. So, still looking for a good table to put in the sewing room to use as a cutting table. Right now we have one of the office table up on risers. It's not quite wide enough.
After looking at the table we drove to Denton to look at a RV place -- man oh man, we are looking for something from about 1998/1999 similar to what we had previously. Everything we've seen so far is a piece of junk. So, we keep looking -- not jumping in...going to find something GOOD for the price we can afford (cash).
Today we went to an estate sale. Found a cedar chest but too much veneer was missing and it had water damage on one end. Estate hostess said it was $110 - I let it stay there. BUT we found a Singer 401A sewing machine in the cabinet. The price was $95 and was a firm price. I finally made up my mind to buy it. As I was looking at other things, however, Ken noticed old dried brittle masking tape wrapped around the two back legs at about the same spot. After peeling back the tape we noticed the legs were cracked...didn't take the time to look at how badly, just told them we changed our mind. As I was paying for other things, the hostess asked me if I wanted the machine for $50...I thought about it for a bit, waivered, said no, then changed my mind and bought the dang thing for $50. Why? Because a 401A is on my bucket list of machines for my collection!!! We had to take the machine out of the cabinet in order to be able to carry the cabinet and fit it into our SUV, but we made it. I've got to get a manual for the machine, but it works. It's got a bit of dirt and dust on it and needs to be cleaned, oiled, lubed, but it is in excellent condition otherwise!
So, now what machines do I have? (1) Singer 600E, (2) Brother XL 5130, (3)Singer 221, (4)Singer 645, (5)Singer 648, (6)Singer 500A, (7)Singer 66, (8)Singer 301, (9)Singer handcrank (can't remember model), (10)Singer 404, (11)Euro-pro, (12)Miss Durham toy machine, (13)Toy machine (can't remember brand), (14) Baby Lock serger, and I have two more coming!
Still want to add a couple other machines to the herd. I would like a GOOD 201, a fabulous 15, a Kenmore like my daughters, a 99, and then some colored ones - like a pink Atlas. And I want a painted machine - like fire engine red and pretty pink. Oh, and I want a New Home like my mother had (and I learned to sew on it). How many machines do I want? Oh, goodness, enough to fill up the garage. Maybe enough for a museum. And I still do not have a treadle machine!
And tonight we went to Big Barn BBQ - an outing with the After 5.0 group. Buddy Whittington was playing. He's good. Unfortunately our group was sitting together - we were spread throughut the place at various table. After eating and listening to a couple of Buddy's tunes everyone from our table left, so we came on home as well. But that's ok - we have a lot to do tomorrow!
Tomorrow we drop hubby's car off at the shop to have the right mirror replaced - he crashed it backing out of the garage. Then we have to dash to the other side of town to pick up the table I've found - for $15...the guy just wants to move it OUT. hoping we can remove the legs and carry it in the back of the SUV. Then we have to make it to the grocery store to get supplies for me to make one chicken and one beef lasagna for a party. I was going to make one (chicken), but the friend who was going to make the beef lasagna is not going to be able to make the party due to a family situation. So, I'll be making both...dig deep into the pockets for this.
Oh, we finally got our insurance coverage straightened out. With retirement effective January 1, I was supposed to receive retiree insurance for me and a supplemental policy for hubby (who has medicare). I called to confirm on Tuesday that we have this coverage - they never heard of me! Anyway, had to get the ball started thru company services who had to put thru emergency notification to carrier. About noon today we learned that we finally have all coverage in place. YEA! What a pain in the patooty!!
Think that's about all for now. Haven't heard a word from my beautiful bio children. I miss them so very dang much. I still hear their voices, and I still see them in my dreams. Good night my beautiful babies...even though it's been many years since you were babies.
Yesterday we finally mustered up enough oomp to get out of the house. We went to look at a dining table advertised on Craigslist for $85 - lady said price was "firm." But when we got there the thing was a piece of crap! We had to let her know we were not interested at any price. totally wobbly - something wrong with the legs. We turned it over to look at it but it wasn't worth trying to fix. So, still looking for a good table to put in the sewing room to use as a cutting table. Right now we have one of the office table up on risers. It's not quite wide enough.
After looking at the table we drove to Denton to look at a RV place -- man oh man, we are looking for something from about 1998/1999 similar to what we had previously. Everything we've seen so far is a piece of junk. So, we keep looking -- not jumping in...going to find something GOOD for the price we can afford (cash).
Today we went to an estate sale. Found a cedar chest but too much veneer was missing and it had water damage on one end. Estate hostess said it was $110 - I let it stay there. BUT we found a Singer 401A sewing machine in the cabinet. The price was $95 and was a firm price. I finally made up my mind to buy it. As I was looking at other things, however, Ken noticed old dried brittle masking tape wrapped around the two back legs at about the same spot. After peeling back the tape we noticed the legs were cracked...didn't take the time to look at how badly, just told them we changed our mind. As I was paying for other things, the hostess asked me if I wanted the machine for $50...I thought about it for a bit, waivered, said no, then changed my mind and bought the dang thing for $50. Why? Because a 401A is on my bucket list of machines for my collection!!! We had to take the machine out of the cabinet in order to be able to carry the cabinet and fit it into our SUV, but we made it. I've got to get a manual for the machine, but it works. It's got a bit of dirt and dust on it and needs to be cleaned, oiled, lubed, but it is in excellent condition otherwise!
So, now what machines do I have? (1) Singer 600E, (2) Brother XL 5130, (3)Singer 221, (4)Singer 645, (5)Singer 648, (6)Singer 500A, (7)Singer 66, (8)Singer 301, (9)Singer handcrank (can't remember model), (10)Singer 404, (11)Euro-pro, (12)Miss Durham toy machine, (13)Toy machine (can't remember brand), (14) Baby Lock serger, and I have two more coming!
Still want to add a couple other machines to the herd. I would like a GOOD 201, a fabulous 15, a Kenmore like my daughters, a 99, and then some colored ones - like a pink Atlas. And I want a painted machine - like fire engine red and pretty pink. Oh, and I want a New Home like my mother had (and I learned to sew on it). How many machines do I want? Oh, goodness, enough to fill up the garage. Maybe enough for a museum. And I still do not have a treadle machine!
And tonight we went to Big Barn BBQ - an outing with the After 5.0 group. Buddy Whittington was playing. He's good. Unfortunately our group was sitting together - we were spread throughut the place at various table. After eating and listening to a couple of Buddy's tunes everyone from our table left, so we came on home as well. But that's ok - we have a lot to do tomorrow!
Tomorrow we drop hubby's car off at the shop to have the right mirror replaced - he crashed it backing out of the garage. Then we have to dash to the other side of town to pick up the table I've found - for $15...the guy just wants to move it OUT. hoping we can remove the legs and carry it in the back of the SUV. Then we have to make it to the grocery store to get supplies for me to make one chicken and one beef lasagna for a party. I was going to make one (chicken), but the friend who was going to make the beef lasagna is not going to be able to make the party due to a family situation. So, I'll be making both...dig deep into the pockets for this.
Oh, we finally got our insurance coverage straightened out. With retirement effective January 1, I was supposed to receive retiree insurance for me and a supplemental policy for hubby (who has medicare). I called to confirm on Tuesday that we have this coverage - they never heard of me! Anyway, had to get the ball started thru company services who had to put thru emergency notification to carrier. About noon today we learned that we finally have all coverage in place. YEA! What a pain in the patooty!!
Think that's about all for now. Haven't heard a word from my beautiful bio children. I miss them so very dang much. I still hear their voices, and I still see them in my dreams. Good night my beautiful babies...even though it's been many years since you were babies.
Monday, January 9, 2012
Monday, January 9, 2012
Wow - life keeps whizzing by. Felt better on Friday and went to have lunch with some of the Poly Goddesses at Mexican Inn. It was so great to see everybody; had an excellent time; ate far too much.
On Saturday evening we went to dinner with about 30-40 of our closest friends (lol)! These are all members of our little social organization, After 5.0, and most are long-time dear friends. We went to Bella's for dinner - wow, another time of eating too much. Had a great time.
On Sunday I went to a quilting bee...only one of us took a sewing machine this time and instead most of us took hand work. I am making crochet squares for a new donation afghan from what's left in my yarn stash. I didn't feel like dragging any of my machines out because I am in the process of cleaning up, straightening up, organizing my sewing/craft room. I'm thinking it's going to take me a week to get it done. And will include buying a new shampooer - ours hit the dust. I need to go to Home Depot or Lowes and get some pegboard and hooks so I can get things put up -- also another shelf board and some braces. And maybe some short shelf boards as well. There are way too many things contained in my room! All the filing cabinets for home; a television, huge desk, cutting table, supply drawers, fabric/sewing machine storage, etc., etc., It takes such a short time for it to all go to chaos.
DH is not feeling well. He has what I had last week - chills, general don't feel good, drainage, no strength. Except for him it is accompanied by nausea. Yuck. So, this is another Monday when we really still haven't been able to START getting things done around here that we need to do (clean out, throw away, downsize).
I've been looking at motorhome online. Apparently the economy is such that we may possibly be able to get something pretty good for not a lot of money. I have a trip to Philadelphia mapped out -- going from Little Rock to Nashville, on to Piegeon Forge, Roanoke, Washington DC, then finally up to Philly to "base" for a week or so while we explore Gettysburg, Lancaster, travel to Woodbine NJ, and to NYC. I'd like to come back via Richmond, on to Raleigh, then down to Myrtle Beach, Charleston, Savannah, Jacksonville, Tallahassee, Mobile, on in to Texas before making our way north again. Really nice to be retired so TIME is not really a factor. BUT, thinking now that we may just fly into Philly and rent a car -- do the other areas one at a time -- go to Nashville/other Tennessee as a separate trip; do the Virginia/Carolina/Georgia as a separate trip; maybe drive to New Orleans on our way to Orlando.
Also been researching Alaska cruises and such. Because of the more stringent enforcement of Canadian laws, we cannot enter Canada (because at a much younger age DH messed up and it's all in the database). We thought we could cruise from Seattle and back, but no go. So, I've finally discovered we can fly to Seattle then on to Alaska and take one of the tour vacations that way - which will include a cruise to the glaciers as well as Denali National Park. And the prices are fairly reasonable! That's a real shocker.
This week we will be getting passport applications completed and start the process of booking the cruise to Key West and the Bahamas. That's going to be fun. Thankfully we will not be subjected to the same border embarrassments as Canada! If you have ANY kind of misdemeanor or ANYTHING on your record, you cannot get over the border even to board a cruise ship! For our Carribean cruise all we have to have are U.S. passports, not visas.
Hmm, so what have I been doing at home? Today for lunch I made, from scratch, yellow squash soup. Very good! Very rich!! We had it with some butter garlic artisan bread that we haven't used before. Then, for tonight's dinner, I made us a boil (little new red potatoes, smoked sausage, corn, shrimp). Thank goodness I had some Old Bay seasoning on hand! So, we have had PLENTY of food to eat today.
Tomorrow will be busy for a little while. DH has to go to his group session, and I've got to spend time on the phone making appointments, getting insurance straightened out (changing from active employee to retired), and no matter what else happens tomorrow, I've got to get my dang laundry finished! Part of it is still in the washing machine and some of it is wrinkling in the dryer as I write and I don't want to go get it out tonight!
If you get a chance, go to the following link and listen. I luv this song. There's a history of this song in our family. My brother, the middle child, discovered this in a church hymnal in the long ago and loved the words but didn't know the tune. He got mother to play it on the piano for him (he was just a kid), and he used to sing this a lot. I have loved it since the first time I heard it as well. We had never heard it recorded by anyone until the last few years when I discovered an old Jim Reeves recording of it, and now this one by Marty Robbins. It says a lot.
Evening Prayer, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jAqUEjP6Lw4
Luv to all. May the good Lord bless and keep and forgive us all of the stupidities we've committed.
On Saturday evening we went to dinner with about 30-40 of our closest friends (lol)! These are all members of our little social organization, After 5.0, and most are long-time dear friends. We went to Bella's for dinner - wow, another time of eating too much. Had a great time.
On Sunday I went to a quilting bee...only one of us took a sewing machine this time and instead most of us took hand work. I am making crochet squares for a new donation afghan from what's left in my yarn stash. I didn't feel like dragging any of my machines out because I am in the process of cleaning up, straightening up, organizing my sewing/craft room. I'm thinking it's going to take me a week to get it done. And will include buying a new shampooer - ours hit the dust. I need to go to Home Depot or Lowes and get some pegboard and hooks so I can get things put up -- also another shelf board and some braces. And maybe some short shelf boards as well. There are way too many things contained in my room! All the filing cabinets for home; a television, huge desk, cutting table, supply drawers, fabric/sewing machine storage, etc., etc., It takes such a short time for it to all go to chaos.
DH is not feeling well. He has what I had last week - chills, general don't feel good, drainage, no strength. Except for him it is accompanied by nausea. Yuck. So, this is another Monday when we really still haven't been able to START getting things done around here that we need to do (clean out, throw away, downsize).
I've been looking at motorhome online. Apparently the economy is such that we may possibly be able to get something pretty good for not a lot of money. I have a trip to Philadelphia mapped out -- going from Little Rock to Nashville, on to Piegeon Forge, Roanoke, Washington DC, then finally up to Philly to "base" for a week or so while we explore Gettysburg, Lancaster, travel to Woodbine NJ, and to NYC. I'd like to come back via Richmond, on to Raleigh, then down to Myrtle Beach, Charleston, Savannah, Jacksonville, Tallahassee, Mobile, on in to Texas before making our way north again. Really nice to be retired so TIME is not really a factor. BUT, thinking now that we may just fly into Philly and rent a car -- do the other areas one at a time -- go to Nashville/other Tennessee as a separate trip; do the Virginia/Carolina/Georgia as a separate trip; maybe drive to New Orleans on our way to Orlando.
Also been researching Alaska cruises and such. Because of the more stringent enforcement of Canadian laws, we cannot enter Canada (because at a much younger age DH messed up and it's all in the database). We thought we could cruise from Seattle and back, but no go. So, I've finally discovered we can fly to Seattle then on to Alaska and take one of the tour vacations that way - which will include a cruise to the glaciers as well as Denali National Park. And the prices are fairly reasonable! That's a real shocker.
This week we will be getting passport applications completed and start the process of booking the cruise to Key West and the Bahamas. That's going to be fun. Thankfully we will not be subjected to the same border embarrassments as Canada! If you have ANY kind of misdemeanor or ANYTHING on your record, you cannot get over the border even to board a cruise ship! For our Carribean cruise all we have to have are U.S. passports, not visas.
Hmm, so what have I been doing at home? Today for lunch I made, from scratch, yellow squash soup. Very good! Very rich!! We had it with some butter garlic artisan bread that we haven't used before. Then, for tonight's dinner, I made us a boil (little new red potatoes, smoked sausage, corn, shrimp). Thank goodness I had some Old Bay seasoning on hand! So, we have had PLENTY of food to eat today.
Tomorrow will be busy for a little while. DH has to go to his group session, and I've got to spend time on the phone making appointments, getting insurance straightened out (changing from active employee to retired), and no matter what else happens tomorrow, I've got to get my dang laundry finished! Part of it is still in the washing machine and some of it is wrinkling in the dryer as I write and I don't want to go get it out tonight!
If you get a chance, go to the following link and listen. I luv this song. There's a history of this song in our family. My brother, the middle child, discovered this in a church hymnal in the long ago and loved the words but didn't know the tune. He got mother to play it on the piano for him (he was just a kid), and he used to sing this a lot. I have loved it since the first time I heard it as well. We had never heard it recorded by anyone until the last few years when I discovered an old Jim Reeves recording of it, and now this one by Marty Robbins. It says a lot.
Evening Prayer, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jAqUEjP6Lw4
Luv to all. May the good Lord bless and keep and forgive us all of the stupidities we've committed.
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Haven't been able to accomplish anything since Monday...started feeling sickly (chills, fever, crud) and have been wrapped up in a quilt most of yesterday and today. Fortunately because of the transplant I have a prescrip of antibiotic on hand but do not want to take it unless this is pneumonia (can cause my body to fight off things, including transplant). So, I've been taking Tylenol - the only thing I'm allowed to take.
But, in reviewing previous posts, it occurred to me that there is something my children probably do not know about my ex and me. I divorced him - not the other way around. I just got fed up with it all - never knowing where he was, who he was with, etc., spending hours driving around at night trying to figure out where he was. My son remembers all of that. And even after the divorce was final, he and I continued to see one another and discussed putting it back together. I'm the one who made the decision that things had to come to a halt. There was no future for either one of us otherwise.
Oh, well, there's just so much of that I don't want to think about...it was a very dark period of my life (and his, too, I'm sure). It just never should have happened. I don't think either of us wanted or expected or planned for it to turn out the way it did, but thankfully we were young and made the decision to go separate ways instead of living for years and years in a life of pure misery!
Oh, well ....
But, in reviewing previous posts, it occurred to me that there is something my children probably do not know about my ex and me. I divorced him - not the other way around. I just got fed up with it all - never knowing where he was, who he was with, etc., spending hours driving around at night trying to figure out where he was. My son remembers all of that. And even after the divorce was final, he and I continued to see one another and discussed putting it back together. I'm the one who made the decision that things had to come to a halt. There was no future for either one of us otherwise.
Oh, well, there's just so much of that I don't want to think about...it was a very dark period of my life (and his, too, I'm sure). It just never should have happened. I don't think either of us wanted or expected or planned for it to turn out the way it did, but thankfully we were young and made the decision to go separate ways instead of living for years and years in a life of pure misery!
Oh, well ....
Monday, January 2, 2012
Monday, January 2, 2012, AM
Monday is still Monday, even if retired! Oh, my, so much to do today. With retirement comes giving up the housekeeper, which means we gotta do all the work. I've made a schedule so we can try to stay up with things, and Monday is bathroom cleaning day and household laundry. All rugs/mats are in the washer. I always dread cleaning the master bathroom. I don't know why it takes so long to clean that room or why it is so difficult; it takes hardly any time to clean the hall bathroom! Oh, well, must be done.
I'm going to put on a pot of stew before I get started on the shower stall, but then going to get BUSY. I want everything done by noon so we have the rest of the day to go to the gym and piddle. I have two goals for this year -- eat healthier, organic, home cooked meals instead of junky fast food, and get more fit. In the process, maybe lose some weight. I am so dang tired of having the figure of a blasted snowman!!! And this round head with the huge sagging jawls and all this fat under my neck just has to go. I know some of it is because of the anti-rejection meds I take, but man oh man, this has just got to get better. Another goal is to drink lots and lots of water and try to wean myself somewhat from the zero coke.
Oh, at the quilting retreat I went to over the weekend, I mentioned trying to figure out what to wear now that I'm retired. The ladies told me that one thing they do is cut off a t-shirt about mid-way between the breast line and the waist, and then sew cotton fabric onto the shirt! Instant easy house dress! I have a pink t-shirt I bought in Vegas which I will never wear. I was planning to use the logo part in a quilt for myself, but now I'm going to cut it off and sew on a skirt. I've got to re-design the neckline on it because one reason I don't wear t-shirts is because I hate the neck...but they told me they cut off the ribbing, cut the front a little deeper, use what's left from the tail of the t-shirt to make a software bias fnished piece for the neck! Well I'll be darned - I can do all that!
So, we'll see how Monday's gonna go. DH is stripping the bed and I'm headed to the kitchen to put on the stew.
I'm going to put on a pot of stew before I get started on the shower stall, but then going to get BUSY. I want everything done by noon so we have the rest of the day to go to the gym and piddle. I have two goals for this year -- eat healthier, organic, home cooked meals instead of junky fast food, and get more fit. In the process, maybe lose some weight. I am so dang tired of having the figure of a blasted snowman!!! And this round head with the huge sagging jawls and all this fat under my neck just has to go. I know some of it is because of the anti-rejection meds I take, but man oh man, this has just got to get better. Another goal is to drink lots and lots of water and try to wean myself somewhat from the zero coke.
Oh, at the quilting retreat I went to over the weekend, I mentioned trying to figure out what to wear now that I'm retired. The ladies told me that one thing they do is cut off a t-shirt about mid-way between the breast line and the waist, and then sew cotton fabric onto the shirt! Instant easy house dress! I have a pink t-shirt I bought in Vegas which I will never wear. I was planning to use the logo part in a quilt for myself, but now I'm going to cut it off and sew on a skirt. I've got to re-design the neckline on it because one reason I don't wear t-shirts is because I hate the neck...but they told me they cut off the ribbing, cut the front a little deeper, use what's left from the tail of the t-shirt to make a software bias fnished piece for the neck! Well I'll be darned - I can do all that!
So, we'll see how Monday's gonna go. DH is stripping the bed and I'm headed to the kitchen to put on the stew.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Sunday Morning, January 1, 2012
Yep, I'm still awake! Gotta go to bed very soon or I will never get up later today!
I'm cleaning things out, shuffling things around, throwing things out (nothing anyone would want - just crap that should have been thrown out already). I have some things, however, that I really need to go ahead and give to family members. I've been saving something for my youngest daughter ever since my mother died, and I had planned to give it to her with her 2011 Christmas things - not as a gift, just that's the time I would be seeing her. But, I wasn't brave enough to give it to her - I'm no longer sure she would want anything that belonged to anyone in our family.
years ago I gave my oldest daughter the bracelet that my former mother-in-law gave me when I was 21, and I also gave her my diamond tennis bracelet. And when she married I gave her the small pearl and diamond pendant I wore when my ex and I married. I have no idea if she still has any of it.
I have no idea what happened to my mother's jewelry when she died. I was ill at the time, fighting a bone infection, was in the hospital when she died, released long enough for her funeral, and then went back. By the time I was allowed to go to my mother's house for one afternoon to see what I wanted, the place had been picked pretty clean by other family members. I never found my mother's two sets of wedding rings (both from Daddy), her high school ring which I had re-shanked for her, her opal ring which I had given her, the expensive watch I had purchased for her, nor any other of her nice things. The only piece I found was her "Mother" ring - the gold band with the birth stones of each of her three children. This I took and put away to give to my youngest daughter. My ex and I purchased it for my mother for Christmas of 1968. But now I'm not sure my daughter would even want it, and I'm pretty sure she wouldn't. So I don't know what to do with it.
So what does one do with the personal effects when there are no children to give things to? I've avoided cleaning things out because I don't know WHAT to do with them. It just never occurred to me that they would not go to my son and daughters.
I'm cleaning things out, shuffling things around, throwing things out (nothing anyone would want - just crap that should have been thrown out already). I have some things, however, that I really need to go ahead and give to family members. I've been saving something for my youngest daughter ever since my mother died, and I had planned to give it to her with her 2011 Christmas things - not as a gift, just that's the time I would be seeing her. But, I wasn't brave enough to give it to her - I'm no longer sure she would want anything that belonged to anyone in our family.
years ago I gave my oldest daughter the bracelet that my former mother-in-law gave me when I was 21, and I also gave her my diamond tennis bracelet. And when she married I gave her the small pearl and diamond pendant I wore when my ex and I married. I have no idea if she still has any of it.
I have no idea what happened to my mother's jewelry when she died. I was ill at the time, fighting a bone infection, was in the hospital when she died, released long enough for her funeral, and then went back. By the time I was allowed to go to my mother's house for one afternoon to see what I wanted, the place had been picked pretty clean by other family members. I never found my mother's two sets of wedding rings (both from Daddy), her high school ring which I had re-shanked for her, her opal ring which I had given her, the expensive watch I had purchased for her, nor any other of her nice things. The only piece I found was her "Mother" ring - the gold band with the birth stones of each of her three children. This I took and put away to give to my youngest daughter. My ex and I purchased it for my mother for Christmas of 1968. But now I'm not sure my daughter would even want it, and I'm pretty sure she wouldn't. So I don't know what to do with it.
So what does one do with the personal effects when there are no children to give things to? I've avoided cleaning things out because I don't know WHAT to do with them. It just never occurred to me that they would not go to my son and daughters.
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