Saturday, December 31, 2011

Saturday, December 3, 2011 Again

Wow! Didn't mean to get bogged down in the tirade of the other post!

This has been a pretty great weekend. We did drive out to the Triple Cross Cowboy Church last evening for the wedding of friend Sharon Foy Cofer to Steve Doody. Neat, homey wedding. and best of all reunited with friends from long ago. Steve is in the Baggy Bottom Boys band, and I know Sharon from my Poly days. But I had not made the connection of Sharon and others of my youth until I saw a video of the BBB playing at Avenue L Baptist Church. Then it hit me -- Eugene Montgomery is a part of the BBB, and his family also went to Ave L. My family had connections with Ave L since the early 60's...I used to play the piano there! The current pastor is the son of the original pastor (Luke the dad, David the current). So I looked around me at the wedding and I'm surrounded by my early life! It was fantastic. then I discovered that David and Debbi have other connections to some of my friends - Denise and Gary King. The Kings are involved in the annual production of The Littlest Wiseman at the Scott Theater and have been for about 19 years; David and Debbi's daughter Cayce has been in the same production for a about 7 years! So, it was old home week.

Today I slept late -- first time since retirement. Didn't get up 'til 10 o'clock. It was wonderful. Then Bennie and I got to snuggle for a while (Bennie = mini doxi). After working the online jigsaw puzzle and messing around much longer than I should, I headed out to a quilting retreat in far Benbrook off of 377. Dadgum, I missed the cut off and was almost to Cresson before I realized my mistake. But I got to spend a wonderful few hours with the quilting group. It was soothing to the soul. I didn't take quilting to work on but did take some new crochet (afghan) that I am doing for the donation pile. Hopefully I'll finish it some day! All the ladies were so much fun. Thankfully one of them is an expert with the use of a serger, and better than that she doesn't live very far from me! I received a serger from my friend Debbi H. -- brand new, in the box, never been opened. I've still got to pay her for it.

Speaking of paying Debbi. I finally got her paid for all the things she gave the girls a few months ago...dining room furniture, sofa, washer/dryer, and I can't remember what all else. Girls don't know Debbi and I made a deal...I just told them she was going to donate it if they didn't want it, so they contacted Debbi and went to get it. I had Debbi keep a list of what they took and then she and I settled on a price. I paid her out over time. it worked out -- girls got what they needed; Debbi made a little cash.

I digress.

We were going to a New Year's Eve party tonight but we got there too early -- and heaven knows how that happened - we'll be the ones who are late to our own funeral. Anyway, we both thought it started at 7 and so we got there at 6:52. There were cars parked all over the place outside so we thought we were on time. turns out those cars were not for the party but must have been neighbors. Hostess opened the door a crack and let us know the party didn't start until 7:30! I was totally embarrassed. We told her we would come back later. But after getting back in the car we decided to go on to a favorite restaurant close by (Prima's) where we had wonderful Italian food and to much wine. We discussed returning to the party or going on to Stumpy's in Arlington. After reading reviews of Stumpy's (several of our friends were going there and there were enough reservations for us to join in), we decided it probably wasn't a place where we would be comfortable, was a bit too far for us to drive on a NY's Eve and try to get back home. So, we elected to come on back home, kick off the shoes, not go anywhere else, and just do our own thing. SO, here we are. I wish I had stayed at the quilting retreat!

Saturday, December 31, 2011

New Year's Eve. What do I hope for the New Year? Forgiveness. Forgiveness for being the weak, stupid person that I am; forgiveness for all the obvious things as well as the things that I don't see that I have done or am doing. And I wish/hope for peace - in all it's many dimensions. And I hope for strength to do the one thing that I know I must do. And I hope for God's intervention in my life that I can become a better me.

Those are the things I hope for myself. As always, every day I pray for my beautiful children and grandchildren. I hope for each and every one of them the greatest year they have ever known - peace, joy, happiness, financial prosperity, love, physical health. They will forever be the best things that ever happened to me and for them I always wish the best and the desires of their hearts. I wish I was better at conveying that to them in reality instead of always making a mess of things.

There is something that bothers me greatly - and that is that my daughters believe I dislike their step mother. I don't. I dislike my ex husband...I still cringe any time I am around him. I can't stop that - it just IS. Maybe I should be able to control that, but so help me I've tried. As my friends know, I just wonder how their step mother has endured it all these years. I was in my 20's when all of that happened so very long ago - too young, immature, stupid, and there is much of it that I (thankfully) have forgotten. But it is not the step mother, it is the ex. It took several years after all the emotional stupidity of the 70's, sessions in counseling, classes in psychology, etc., for me to realize that I was not unhappy over the divorce, I was glad that was over. I was merely mourning the loss of a dream. Once I came to terms with that, it didn't matter any more.

Coming to terms didn't make me the perfect person, I continued to make many mistakes. Remarriages, failed relationships, always trying to better our financial situation. Finally came to terms with that thru the comment of a beloved professor who told me in a straight/direct way that I was marrying beneath me, and clutching for life rafts that did not exist. That I could never improve my situation by depending on someone else. I needed to become a whole person myself.

Boy, didn't mean to get into all this! But in wishing for my children and grandchildren I just can't help but look back over the many, many mistakes I made as their mother and wishing things had been different - no, wishing I had been different. So for each and every one of them I wish them peace, joy, and love.

I will never reach perfection. I wish I could. I will always be a work in progress. And will always need God's grace and forgiveness as well as the forgiveness of my children and others. I am who I am; and I know God knows that. And I know He chose me to be the mother of my children for a reason, and I thank Him for that. They were the greatest gifts.

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Thursday, December 29, 2011

So glad Christmas is over/past. Now days it is such a painful time. This year was no different. DH took gifts to his dad/step-mother, and to his son's family. Like my family, it is not a good relationship. DH has never seen his grandson and he is now 2 years old.

We got everything ready for my daughters' families and took it over on Christmas Eve. It was VERY obvious we were not wanted there. But, we did get to see both sets of grandchildren and drop off gifts. I was thrilled that all the children seemed glad to see us. Well, not the 2 year old - she was asleep, bless her baby heart. It was quite painful knowing that the two daughters want absolutely NOTHING to do with me. and it was very painful to read something my youngest daughter posted later about having had to see us.

That posting was on the heal of her text response to me when I inquired if we should deliver gifts Christmas Eve or wait until after Christmas. Her remark told me it was up to me - she couldn't contend with it right now. So, we decided we wouldn't deliver at all. Later that day we received a text message from my oldest daughter that if we wanted to deliver gifts to the children we could, that she would be home until 5. Of course the reason they couldn't make time for us is because they were having the big Christmas party with their dad and stepmother and family (I raised these kids as a single mother on a shoe string with absolutely no help or input from him...now he's the great FATHER.) The christmas celebration I had for years and years with my children was taken away from me and given to the dad and step mother. My youngest daughter even claims her step mother as her MOTHER on her FB page. And my oldest daughter has gone so far as to tell me that I am NOT her family, and that I am to have nothing to do with her or her children.

Thankfully my oldest child, my son, is always wonderful. But, he doesn't live in the same state as us and it's too far to drive and too expensive to fly there for holidays. So Christmas was, as it has been for several years now, very hard and very painful. I am always so glad when it is past.

We were invited by my niece to come to their home for Christmas Day. thankfully we didn't have to spend it alone. Bless you my beautiful niece. We got to see my most of my oldest brother's family. and it may be the last time we get to do that since my oldest brother is not well at all. My nieces and I spent a lot of the day crying, and my oldest brother did what he used to do when I was very young - couldn't stand it because I was crying. But, we got past that and had a great time. My two nieces had been at bingo on Christmas Eve and sent me a text telling me to bring "10 pounds of peanut butter fudge!" They were teasing, but I decded to do it anyway - well, not quite so much, but still pnut butter fudge. I told them one of these days I'm going to give them the dang recipe but they don't want it, just want me to bring it. That's what they remember of Christmas's long ago when they were younger - I always made the candy; their mom makes the fantastic from scratch chocolate pies that are to die for.

And then it was Monday - what would be a holiday week for me, but now I'm retired so NO holiday. We began on this house with a vengence. So dirt, nasty, cluttered, horrible. We have spent the entire week working on the den. We gave away the kitchen table and chairs, moved the table and chairs from the den into the breakfast area. nobody ever comes to our house anyway - we don't need two dining spaces. Then we dismantled the rest of the den. We have had this huge wall entertainment center for 10 years and I have been sick of it for at least 5. With it in use the only way we can set te couch is in the middle of the room which means there is absolutely no room in the den. We moved the center piece to the master bedroom and put the side pieces on separate walls in the den to use as curio shelves. Earlier this year we had the bar wall raised and the bar top changed to a pony wall cap instead so that we can actually use that wall for the television. We don't yet have a low tv stand for the tv but we moved it to that wall anyway and used the sofa table as a stand for now. We had to have AT&T come out and hook up all the televisions again. The price will be worth it. They also had to change out all the old cable wiring because we've been having issues - we have AT&T Uverse. Way too expensive for what it is.

We've spent 4 days and are not yet finished with the den. We tok everything out of the entry closet. Not really a coat closet. When the house was built I had that closet made deeper into the garage so it is a much larger closet. It is where we keep the Christmas crap. That closet was a disaster. Someone in this house just opens the door and throws crap of all kinds in there. All that had to be cleaned out.

Yesterday we spent scrubbing the kitcen floor tiles. Toda we swept, swiffed, mopped, and put orange glo on the hardwood floors in the entry hallway and den. DH is PO'd because I am not allowing him to wear his nasty shoes in the house. He tends to go grunging in the garage and in the back yard where there is mud and dog doo and then come traipsing back into the house. I've had enough of it. No more. He can take his shoes off when he comes in the house. I've been telling him for years.

DH is beginning to regret that I have retired. I have been giving warnings for the 3 years he has been home that the house is going to be put back into shape - he's not happy about it. But at least the den area is beginning to look better. Still need to buy new sofa/chairs for in there, tables, and a tv stand, but all in good time.

Tomorrow we finish the den -- tables need to be cleaned with Murphy's Oil Soap (I don't like polish because it attracks dust). Still have some crap to go thru/put up. But I'm beginning to feel like the house is once again mine. Got so very much more to do.

But tomorrow will be a short work day. We are going to a wedding at the Triple Cross Cowboy Church tomorrow evening so we will have to leave here about 4:30 so we can make a stop at the square in Granbuy and then head on to the church. It will be a great wedding and party. The Baggy Bottom Boys will be entertaining (look 'em up - you'll be surprised).

We have a party to go to Saturday night (New Year's Eve), and then a New Year's Blackeye Pea part on Sunday afternoon. Then on Monday we will start back on the house.

The work has been good for us - I am already terribly sore from the exercise of moving things and mopping!!!

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Wow, this past week has been a whirlwind. So much to do at work, yet my last day is this coming Thursday. I don't figure I will get it all done before I leave. Oh, well.

Wednesday was my baby granddaughter's birthday; we took her birthday bag of gifts to her house Wed. night. Instead of leaving the bag on the front porch we were invited in and got to say hello to my 8 year old grandson and to the 2 year old granddaughter. We got to stay long enough to watch the baby open her gifts. This daughter lives next door to my other daughter, so I was pleasantly surprised when my other 3 grandchildren came over as well (ages 12, 11, 8). I have not seen them in over 2 years. My other daughter also came over before we left.

It was very awkward, very strange. It was like being with strangers. But I was so thrilled to get to see them all. It was a wonderful. Unfortunately it meant the next day we had to take back all the clothing articles we had purchased for them for Christmas! They've all grown so much that not a thing we had purchased would ever fit them. we've decided we won't buy anything like that for them! We will probably just give them gift cards.

Yesterday was BUSY! We got up early, got package ready to mail to son and family, actually got thru the line at the post office, went to grocery store, stopped at Dollar Tree, and then came home to rest (lol) a bit. Last night we went to a Christmas party...we all contribute to the food for these. The hostesses set the menu and send out the recipes. I am trying to learn to cook and had never before done fresh asparagus. But, I got thru it - learned how to break off the woody ends, blanched them, put them in the ice water bath, made the marinade, and actually did an ok job. They blanched a bit too long for finger food, but they were sure good!!

Today I had two Christmas shindigs to attend - One for our quilting group (cookie/goodie exchange), and then an ornament exchange. That meant I got up at the crack of dawn this morning and made cookies -- first I made chocolate chip, then I made peanut butter. I made enough to send a big tin of cookies to my son's family so hopefully we'll get those mailed in the morning.

I have done zilch Christmas shopping - well, almost zilch. I've got to get busy. I don't usually work this last work week of the year, but am having to this year since my last day on the payroll is this week. That means I'm going to have to make my way to the malls and toy store after work every day! Sure hope to heck I get it all done. Would be easier if I knew what to buy everybody!!

I am looking for a redneck wine glass for my husband -- one of those Mason Jar stemmed wine glasses.

Until next time -

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Today is Sophie's (my baby granddaughter) 2nd birthday. I'm not permitted to be her grandmother, was told not to attend her baby shower, never received notice of her birth, have been told not to have anything to do with her, my grandson, or my daughter. Long story - life of pure drama. It hurts, I cry, but it is what it is. But I saw a quote today that I really love.

"Never force yourself to have a space in anyone's life, because if they really know your worth, they will surely create one for you."

So, Happy Birthday, Sophie. I hope your day is lots and lots of fun. Grammy wishes only the best surprises for you.

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Life has been busy. Let's see, last time I was meeting friend Denise for coffee at Starbucks. Had a great time, as always. We spent about 3 hours getting to talk girl talk and discussing our little foo foo doggies and making clothes for them. Denise sent me home with a beautiful pink hoodie for Luci as well as a dress she had made for her Mina when she was little, along with some patterns. Now to find the time to sew them!

We were getting ready to go to St. David's in the Meadow on Sunday. We had a great time - we look forward to that service every year. David always opens the service and then we have some Christmas music, then Tonya reads the age-old story of the birth of Jesus, then we have a "sermon" (really just a speach) by the New Passage Sunday School teacher, Bill Lanford, then some more music. This year we had a full house!

The potluck lunch was great as always. Everybody brings the most wonderful food, and this year there was a smoked brisket and a turkey.

After lunch there is the hilarious "chinese" gift exchange. And the gift exchange is a mix of good gifts and white elephant exchange. And it is always fun. This year I received a broken snow globe (threw it away before we left), and Ken received a wig and a pair of satin high heel shoes dyed blue!!! Guess what will be rewrapped and taken back next year!!! I got a picture of him with the wig on and loaded it on to facebook.

It's been a busy week! I spent Friday at Baylor All Saints Hospital in the kidney transplant clinic. Everything still looks good. I told them I can't return for more visit due to the layoff and retirement effective January 1. They have work arounds, so I'll be followed in Fishbach's private practice instead of the clinic, and Yango told me that if it comes to groceries or paying them that they will waive their fee! The social worker has applied for a grant for me to get meds this month, and she gave me a card to use for getting reimbursement for one of the rejection meds.

Still trying to get Christmas shopping done but don't have a clue what to get. We wet to Macy's on Saturday, but I'm having buyer's remorse (we just can't afford what we bought), and I'm taking some of it back this week. We still need to go to the book store. My problem is, I want to buy the world for my children and grandchildren.

I have completed making 6 Christmas vests!!! They are SO cute (at least I think so). Thus far I've completed one for granddaughters Madison, Chloe, and Sophie; and for grandsons Nathan, Jacob, and Jevan. I am going to get started on one for Courtney - I had to wait for the pattern to get here. She's a tiny mite so had to FIND a pattern for hers. I know whatever I make will be too big for her!!! I've attached ribbon to the girls' vests for closing, but can't figure out what to do for closing the boys' vests! All of them are reversible, and I'm thinking I'll make one buttonhole on theirs and then sew a button on each side of the vest - of course that means on one side the button will be on the WRONG side for a boy!

Tomorrow I have to shop for granddaughter Sophie's birthday - it's on Wednesday. Can't afford to buy her things until tomorrow, so it means we will have to make a trip to their place one night after work. And again, leave it on the front porch and ring the bell. I don't know what we will do about all their Christmas things (bags) -- I'm afraid they will be stolen.

Well, that's it for now. Gotta go take care of laundry and get ready to go to work tomorrow. Only have this week and next left before I'm off for good! I am so frightened of being without a job!!!

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Saturday, December 3, 2011

My grandson Jacob's 8th birthday was Thursday. We bought his gifts, bagged them, then after work on Wednesday we drove them to Mansfield. I don't have a clue where my daughter (his mother) lives, and since my two daughters don't speak to me and I'm not allowed to have anything to do with the grandchildren, all I can do is leave things on the porch of my youngest daughter, ring the door bell, leave a text message and drive off. I never hear from them as to whether or not the gifts are received or even given to the grandchildren. There has never been a thank you from any of them so I have no way of knowing.

So, life goes on. It hurts, I cry, I get depressed, and for a couple of days I'm non-functional. And then I have to move on. I pray that none of my children ever experience these kinds of actions.

I made a Christmas vest for my 2 year old granddaughter, Sophie. I've seen her only one time in her life - she has no clue I exist. But, as I tell Ken, we will continue to do the right thing anyway. The vest is really cute -- the outside is from the Christmas fabric I used to make my daughter's Christmas dress in 1990, the lining is Christmas kitty fabric.

I have vests to make for my other granddaughters as well, but I cut one of them out only to discover I had cut the pattern the wrong way on a one-way designed fabric! Ken went yesterday and picked up some more fabric so I'll get that done this weekend.

I've made a new Christmas dress for Luci - my foo foo doggie. She's a real hottie in it.

Gotta run - I'm heading to have coffee with friend Denise at Starbucks, then got to get home to get ready for St. David's in the Meadow tomorrow morning. Ken got the crazy gifts yesterday so we gotta get those wrapped and then figure out some kind of food to take with us. Always fun at St. David's...little church out northwest of Weatherford, single room, pot belly stove in the center of the room. Friend David McKenna purchased the property when it was decommissioned by the Methodist church several years ago. Its adjacent to his property and he was afraid someone would purchase the church property and destroy it, or else put in a pig farm or something!

Have a great Saturday.